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EFFECTS OF GLOBAL EVENTS ON DAILY LIFE------ BY MEGHA

    How global events impact our lives? Each one of you who is reading this right now has experienced the impact of a global event (pandemic) this last year. So, let’s talk about that today. Two years ago the terms like “Lockdown”,“Social distancing”,“Mask mandates” were unknown to most of us. Today they are part of our everyday language as the Covid-19 pandemic continues to impact all aspects of our lives. Let’s talk about mental health !! We all thought that 2020 was the worst year and we will never see anything worse than that. But then came “the year 2021”, which affected people’s lives not only physically but mentally and emotionally too. Stress is a natural and expected response to any health crisis, but stress unexpectedly increases when everyone around you is getting infected, that is the time you feel most vulnerable. Questions like- Will this pandemic end or get worse? Will my anxiety end or get worse? Impacts your mental health even more. Different groups are facing...
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REVIEWING INDIAN MATCHMAKING ( A Netflix Original Series)--- BY MEGHA




Remember when Netflix tried to give us an Indian dating show, "WHAT THE LOVE!" with Karan Johar. Guess what, Netflix is back with another brand new reality show which is as desi as it gets-  INDIAN MATCHMAKING or should I say NRI's matchmaking instead. As it follows a bunch of upper caste and rich Indians and Indian-Americans trying to find someone to marry.

If you have seen this show you will totally relate to what I am saying and if not then hop in... as you will save your 4 hours by reading this 5 minutes review😉.


Well, the fact that this show is full of drama and gossips is the ultimate reason why it is on the Top 10 list in India today. Okay, let me be honest before watching this show I was told that this show is quite funny if you don't take it seriously. But how can I not take it seriously? They have created this illusion on how matchmaking in India is done, which is not true. Matchmaking in India is less intrusive and mechanical. 


And how can we forget the famous matchmaker Sima Taparia AKA Sima mami who is so judgemental and has used the words like "adjusting" and "flexible" a lot of times in the show. Like what are we? rubber band? What I can't get is that even in 2020 people like her are so confident about talking and mentioning such stuff on TV.

 
This show is such a bummer that even if you reject one rishta or proposal the adults of the family will send you to a "life coach" as if something is wrong with you. But this is not how it works. I mean it's okay to reject someone or get rejected. After all it's not just a wedding, it's a marriage.

 STEREOTYPES IN THIS SHOW

  • Colourism, sexism, casteism is not normal. But this show portrays that these things are normal and we have to adjust and live with it. 
  • Rejecting a guy because of his income even if he has a golden heart and has much to offer.
  • Your wife should be "slim-trim-fair". Your husband should be 6 feet tall.
  • Educated and successful women have high expectations. Okay, this was something that got me furious. If a "successful women" is thinking too much before choosing the right person it is because she has worked really hard where she is right now and she will not want to give it all away for someone else. And let's face it many families in this society still expect a women to take care of the family and kids no matter how hectic her day was. So, if a women is thinking too much before getting married she is not stubborn, she is concerned.
  • Divorced people have less options.
  • Also, this series have portrayed Indians as regressive mindset people, superstitious, Indian parents are controlling and they think that 25 is the right age to get married. We are living in 2020 we need to delete these stereotypes from our society instead we are setting a trend by showing such things on TV.

WHY REVIEWING THIS SHOW

  • I know that lot of you might think that this show is a reflection of society. But the fact that this is not a funny fiction series but a reality show makes me frustrated and furious, because I don't want that hiring matchmaker, rejecting 50 girls/boys become a trend for people. It is not an elite thing to do as this show is suggesting. 
  • Choosing your partner is not based on any checklist. I know there are some criteria or preferences which we want in our life partner but rejecting someone because they do not fulfill those criteria, I don't think that is appropriate.

To the people who are watching this show I just want to tell, if you are someone who is 30 or above and you think that you should get married because your family is asking you to but you haven't felt or met someone like that.. IT IS OKAY. We have to normalise getting married after 30s. 
And the girls watching this, you do not have to change your self or be "flexible" just because you have to get married. This show is not the whole truth of the society. There are many wonderful and supporting men in the world. Wait until you find the right one for you💓.
This snake pit of patriarchy is not the whole truth.









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